St. Mary's Cathedral - Reconciliation

Reconciliation Times


Hours Have Changed:


6:00 PM – 7:30 PM


4:00 PM – 5:30 PM

All Other Times by Appointment

The Sacrament of Penance and Reconciliation

Sin is before all else an offense against God, a rupture of communion with him. At the same time it damages communion with the Church. For this reason conversion entails both God’s forgiveness and reconciliation with the Church, which are expressed and accomplished liturgically by the sacrament of Penance and Reconciliation.

Celebrating Confession

The following is excerpted from “Celebrating Confession“, a brochure published by the Canadian Conference of Catholic Bishops.



  • Do I centre my life on God, on fidelity to the Gospel and the Commandments?
  • Do I set aside time for personal prayer?
  • Do I keep Sunday by participating in the Eucharist? Is Sunday a day of prayer and rest?
  • Do I observe the penitential practices of the Church? Do I keep Lent as a time of prayer?
  • Do I behave as a Christian in daily and public life? Is my faith reflected in my employment?
  • Have I taken property of others – including my employer? Am I envious of what others have?
  • Do I share my goods with those in need?
  • Do I respect the reputation of others?
  • Do I care for my family?
  • Do I model Christian life for my family: parents, wife, husband, children?
  • Do I exercise authority with genuine concern and responsibility? Do I give others the same respect that I expect for myself?
  • Have I dishonoured my body by thoughts or actions incompatible with Christian life?
  • Am I faithful to my marriage? Do I set an example of committed single living?
  • Do I live out my commitments to my spouse and my children to the best of my ability and reflect God’s love and faithfulness?
  • How do I deal with the difficulties, failures and disappointments of life?
  • Do I tend to the spiritual, physical and medical needs of my body?
  • Can others see the grace of Baptism at work in my life?



  • Deuteronomy 6. 3-9: Love the Lord your God with your whole heart.
  • Jeremiah 7.21-26: Listen to my voice, and I will be your God, and you will be my people.
  • Hosea 14.2-10: Return to the Lord you God.
  • Joel 2.12-19: Turn to me with your whole heart.
  • Matthew 5.1-12: The Beatitudes

Welcome: The priest welcomes the penitent. It is helpful if you indicate the time of your last Confession and anything else that will help the priest hearing your confession.

Scripture: A short passage of Scripture may be read.

Confession: Confess your sins and listen to the advice of the priest.

Penance: The priest proposes a good action or prayer to help make up for sin and deepen virtue.

Prayer of Sorrow (Act of Contrition): We pray expressing personal sorrow and asking for forgiveness.

Absolution: The priest grants absolution in the name of God and the Church.

Praise of God and Dismissal: The priest invites you to praise God and dismisses you with the command to go in peace.



My God, I am sorry for my sins with all my heart.
In choosing to do wrong and failing to do good,
I have sinned against you

whom I should love above all things.
I firmly intend, with your help,

to do penance, to sin no more,
and to avoid whatever leads me to sin.
Our Saviour Jesus Christ
suffered and died for us.
In his name, my God, have mercy.


Lord Jesus Christ, Son of God,
have mercy on me, a sinner.

We should spend some time in thanking God for forgiving us and restoring us to full life in Christ.




Matthew 6.14-15: If you forgive others their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you; but if you do not forgive others, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses.

Mark 1.14b-15: Jesus came proclaiming the good news of God, and saying, “The time is fulfilled, and the kingdom of God has come near; repent, and believe in the good news.”

Luke 15.7: I tell you, there will be more joy in heaven over one sinner who repents than over ninety-nine righteous persons who need no repentance.

Ephesians 5.1: Be imitators of God, as beloved children, and live in love, as Christ loved us and gave himself up for us, a fragrant offering and sacrifice to God.



Give thanks to the Lord, for he is good.
– His mercy endures for ever.

My soul proclaims the greatness of the Lord,
my spirit rejoices in God my Saviour,
who has looked with favour
on his lowly servant.
From this day all generations

will call me blessed:
the Almighty has done great things for me
and holy is his name.

God has mercy on those who fear him,
from generation to generation.
The Lord has shown strength with his arm
and scattered the proud in their conceit,
casting down the mighty
from their thrones
and lifting up the lowly.

God has filled the hungry with good things
and sent the rich away empty.
He has come to the aid of his servant Israel,
to remember the promise of mercy,
the promise made to our forebears,
to Abraham and his children for ever.

(Luke 1.46-55; English Language Liturgical Consultation)


All-holy Father, you have shown us your mercy and made us a new creation in the likeness of your Son. Make us living signs of your love for the whole world to see.


Glory to the Father, and to the Son, and to the Holy Spirit: as it was in the beginning, is now, and will be for ever.

The Chief medical Health Officer of Kingston has ordered that Masks must be worn at all places we gather indoors. That includes us here at the cathedral. We can’t supply everyone with a mask so please come with one. We would have a limited supply available for a loonie at the entrance of the cathedral.
Please read and observe the six key principles outlined below.

1) The key principle is that we come to Mass to worship God. Out of justice and exercising the virtue of religion we must give God what is God’s due. That quite simply is worship, adoration and praise. Thus, the absolute essentials of Mass will be included so that the Sacramental praise of God will take place and we will be exposed to one another for as brief a time as possible.

2) The second key principle is that the health and safety of parishioners, staff and clergy here at St. Mary’s are essential and require our utmost concern and attention. Therefore, the dispensation from the obligation to come to Sunday Mass by Archbishop Mulhall continues to be in effect. Those who are sick, elderly or have other critical health concerns should not come at this time. However, that is left to your discretion. Should you make the choice to come, knowing the risks, you are most welcome.

3) The underlying principle of all of our restrictions in isolating, physically distancing, wearing masks etc. is the common good as we live out the Lord’s commission to “love one another.” We are to care for each other and at this time we are called to be as prudent and careful as we can to protect the health of everyone else and ourselves.
4) The principle for the next few weeks will be brevity. The received scientific wisdom is that the virus spreads within groups who spend a prolonged period of time together. Therefore, we will be reducing the Mass to the bare essentials.
5) Singing is considered more dangerous than speaking so you are asked to please not sing at all throughout the Mass. I will not be singing either.
6) If you have any sickness, are elderly or have a critical illness you should remain at home. The dispensation from the obligation to come to Mass continues through this time of 30% capacity. Of course, if you choose to come you will not be turned away. We will continue to live- stream the Masses until we are back to a more normal arrangement.

The Chief medical Health Officer has ordered that Masks must be worn at all places we gather indoors. That includes us here at the cathedral. We can’t supply everyone with a mask so please come with one. We would have a limited supply available for a loonie at the entrance of the cathedral.
We will pray a shorter Penitential Rite.
The Gloria will be said not sung. There is to be no singing by the congregation during the Mass. Only by a cantor or as we have today a physically distanced choir in the choir loft…3 metres apart.
We will only have one reading followed by the Psalm
The second reading will be omitted.
The choir will sing the Alleluia on Sundays. During the week it will be omitted. Please do not join in.
The Gospel.
A very brief (3-4 minute) homily will follow.
The Creed will not be prayed.
There will be no petitions. Please prepare your own petitions and offer them in your heart during the Mass.
There will be no procession of the gifts.
There will be no regular collections at this time in the Masses. It will happen later. Ushers will be at the doors to receive your offering as you leave.
The Eucharistic Prayer will be prayed. This is the Most Important Part of the Mass.
The Our Father
Sign of Peace. This is a time when we won’t shake hands. Please do not wave to each other or give the two finger sign of peace. Neither of these reflect what is the intention here…You are recognizing the presence of God in the other person and praying they know God’s peace. The most appropriate gesture is a slight bow or nod of the head to the other person. You have seen me do this at the sign of peace to all of you at every Sunday Liturgy.
Please be seated.
Then the ushers will direct you to the place where you will receive Holy Communion. Please do not leave your pew until an usher has indicated you should do so.
Another usher will be close to the Communion Station to receive your Sunday Offering.
When it is your turn to receive Holy Communion. You will stand 6 feet away on the red line. The person distributing Holy Communion will say “The Body of Christ”. You will say “Amen”. Then move forward within arms length and receive the Host. Once you have received go straight out the nearest exit and make your Thanksgiving on your way home.
Aisles 1 & 5 will come forward to receive Holy Communion and leave by the side doors.
Aisles 2, 3 & 4 will go to the back to receive Holy Communion.
Aisle 2 will exit by the exit closest to the rectory.
Aisle 3 will exit out the centre door which you came in
Aisle 4 will exit out the door by the washrooms.
You are strongly encouraged to receive Holy Communion in the hand. Receiving on the tongue endangers the person giving Holy Communion and yourself, the person receiving Holy Communion. If you wish to insist on receiving on the tongue please wait until the very end as the person giving Holy Communion should sanitize their hands after each communicant. The usher will pass you by and will come back to you after everyone else has received. Please don’t leave your pew until that has taken place.